The Power of Intention with Heather Lahtinen

IN THIS EPISODE:

#077 - What is it that you want? How do you want to feel today?

They're seemingly simple questions, but few of us take the time to ask ourselves—or to get clear on the answers. This week I'm joined by podcast regular Heather Lahtinen to talk about why it's so important to set intentions, and how to do it effectively. Also in this episode: bobbleheads, "safety mode," and road-trip woes.

What To Listen For:

The important difference between goals and intentions
How to phrase your intentions to increase their power
What triggered Heather's recent meltdown, and how she turned things around
The Contrast/Clarity method for figuring out what you want
This year's hottest Christmas present—add it to your wish-list!

Setting intentions doesn't have to be a complicated process—but it is a critically important process. This week's episode will get you headed in the right direction.

Resources From This Episode:

Flourish Academy
Flourish Academy on Facebook
Episode 67 - The Productivity Hack No One Talks About
Soundtracks, by John Acuff
Start With Why, by Simon Sinek

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Full Transcript ›

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Welcome to the hair of the dog podcast.

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I'm Nicole Begley.

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And today we have our favorite guest back,

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Heather Lahtinen.

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And today we are talking about the power of intention.

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You guys,

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you are setting your intention all the time,

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whether you know it or not,

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this episode is a must.

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Listen, Welcome to the hair of the dog podcast.

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If you're a pet photographer,

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ready to make more money and start living a life by

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your design,

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you've come to the right place.

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And now your host,

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pet photographer,

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travel addict,

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chocolate martini connoisseur,

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Nicole Begley.

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And I am back once again with your very favorite hair

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of the dog podcast guest,

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Heather Lahtinen from the the flourish academy,

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also a coach in the academy and one of our coaches

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and elevate,

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oh, Heather,

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welcome back to the podcast.

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Thank you so much for having me,

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Nicole. This is absolutely.

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My favorite thing to do is talk to you about things

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that can help people move forward in their life and their

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business. Agreed.

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Agreed. So what are we talking about today?

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Today? We are talking about intention and how important it is

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to aim at something,

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because the truth is you can't hit what you don't aim

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at, right?

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Okay. So Nicole,

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have you ever played darts?

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Ah, yeah.

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Okay. So you throw a dart,

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you you're aiming at the dartboard,

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right? Where are you aiming in the middle,

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right? Cause you want to get the most points.

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Okay. So what if I said,

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I'm pretty good at darts.

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I'm just going to say random,

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random aside.

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I, well,

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I'm also really good at cornhole.

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And when we were in the islands at one point,

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some random gentlemen asked me if I played horseshoes or curling

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because I was so good at corn hole.

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It was like,

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no, neither,

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but anyway.

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Yes, I liked dark.

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Okay. So dark.

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So you're aiming.

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So if we were playing darts and we were in a

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room without windows and I came in and I turned off

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the lights and I blindfolded you and I handed you the

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darts and maybe I even spun you around.

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And I said,

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okay, I want you to aim for the dart board.

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How do you think that would go?

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Oh, and by the way I moved the dart board.

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I really not well,

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right. That,

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well, you would have no idea where to aim.

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So chances are 99.9%

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of the time.

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You would in fact,

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miss it completely by a long shot.

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So people go through their lives and they conduct their businesses

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in such a way that they're,

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they have this almost low level discontent.

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Sometimes it even graduates to misery because they're not achieving what

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they want because they haven't defined it.

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They haven't set the intention of,

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oh, this is where I want to go.

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And another metaphor is like,

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if I just decided I live in Pittsburgh,

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if I wanted to go to the beach,

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should I just,

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you know,

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get in my car and head south hope for the best.

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Ultimately I'll hit a beach right now.

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I would,

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I would get an address and I would put it in

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my GPS.

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And I would drive that would put a pin on a

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map. Intention is like putting a pin on a map.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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I see so many people and I'm guilty of it too.

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I mean,

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we're both had,

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this has happened to all of us.

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Cause we're human.

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We live our life through just circumstance.

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You know,

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you get in the routine,

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you get up,

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get the kids to school,

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you feed the dog,

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you go to work,

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you come home from work,

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you do some laundry.

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You watching Netflix,

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you go to bed,

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you do it all again.

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And then at the end of the month,

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you're like,

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man, I didn't get any progress on my business or I

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don't feel like I move forward at all.

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And you know,

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everybody has the same 24 hours and it's really what we

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do with that.

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And it comes down to what we talked about recently,

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on what episode,

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what does that episode?

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67, the productivity hack that no one talks about,

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which was self integrity must listen to episode there.

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So it comes down to that,

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but it also comes down with figuring out what the heck

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we want.

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Cause if you don't know what you want,

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I certainly can't help you achieve it.

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You know?

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And as a coach and inside of elevate,

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one of the very first things I do,

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I have a video on setting your intention and I get

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very deliberate in this video by saying,

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I elevate as a six month program.

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So I say,

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where do you,

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we, we call it the date in six months.

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Where do you want to be on that date?

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What do you want your business to look like?

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I want you to write a very specific intention,

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not a vague,

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lofty one.

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Not I want to feel more confident,

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not I want to understand my business.

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I want to get more clients.

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The, those are great,

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but those aren't intentions,

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intentions are things like I will have clarity around my pricing.

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I will have my website completed.

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I will have my marketing plan in place.

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That's setting a specific intention for a desired outcome.

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Now I should note here.

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These are a little different than goals,

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right? Because goals are,

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you know,

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I will lose five pounds by January 31st.

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It's really tangible,

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measurable, and exact intention is more you're you're setting an aim

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or somewhat detaching from where it leads you,

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meaning you're headed to the beach.

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But if you take a little side trip somewhere else to

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grab some great food at a restaurant you heard about,

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and that's still a good thing,

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but maybe it takes you another minute to get to the

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beach or longer.

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Or maybe you,

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you pivot a little bit or you change directions.

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Intention is,

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is bigger.

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Am I that's a CRA how would you assess that?

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Yeah, well,

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and this actually made something come up for me too.

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I feel like intention can be more vague,

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which is interesting.

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Cause you know,

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goals, like you said,

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a goal is not,

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I want to make more money in my business because okay.

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My client just added on a $5 tip.

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That's specific.

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I want to make at least $1,500

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per client and have at least four clients per month.

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that is a specific goal.

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I feel like,

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I feel like intention can go that direction too.

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But I feel like sometimes when you don't know exactly what

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it is,

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you want,

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you can set the intention to get the clarity.

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It's what you just mentioned.

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And it's also what I did when I went to my

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mastermind meeting of February and Sedona.

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I went into this week and I asked myself what's my

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intention. And my intention honestly,

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was just like,

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I intend to get whatever I need out of this week.

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That was it because I didn't know exactly what I wanted

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out of my week with these people.

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Cause it was the first time we were all meeting.

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And so my intention literally was I intend to get exactly

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what I need out of this week.

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Oh and what did I get?

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Oh, discover that I'm creating the nonprofit.

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So I got hair of the dog conservation fund out of

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that week.

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So that was exactly what I needed and something that wasn't

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even anywhere on my radar prior to that trip.

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So interesting.

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So you didn't even really know what it was you needed.

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I know I would.

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I guess what we're saying here then is goals need to

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be real.

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You need to have a lot of clarity around,

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do your goals.

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They need to be very specific,

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but intention is a deliberate aim at something.

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Even if you don't know exactly what it is.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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Wayne Dyer said our intention creates our reality,

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which I just absolutely love that quote because it's so true.

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You guys,

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we are solely responsible for our day-to-day life and the outcome

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of our life and what we do with our time and

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what reality is created around us and our business and our

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life. And it has to start with intention and it's okay

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if you're like,

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man, I just,

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I don't know where I need to be right now.

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Then set the attention that you're going to get clarity there.

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And then how do you then continue to get that clarity?

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Well, for me when I was there,

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I just,

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and I believe full-heartedly when I set that intention,

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I knew I'm going to get exactly what I need.

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And then I was just open and I was talking to

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people in different conversations,

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led to different things.

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And it caused me to wake up at four in the

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morning with this idea.

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And I'm like,

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oh, there it is.

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There it is.

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And I couldn't go back to sleep and just couldn't get

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it out of my mind.

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And I knew it like it,

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it felt more aligned than anything ever.

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And so I knew that was it.

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So then it turns into,

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okay, now I'm setting the goals.

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Now my goal is to have this up and running prior

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to when we meet again in July,

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which by the way,

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we just applied for our nonprofit five oh one C3 through

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the IRS yesterday.

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So that was on the roll.

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Thank you.

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Final piece before it is up and running.

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So approximately 90 days,

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hopefully it should have an answer.

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Although the IRS seems to be a little backed up,

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they should set the intention to get their act together.

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But anyway,

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I digress that's so I think that people might initially get

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frustrated with this.

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Like I don't know where I'm headed or what I want.

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And that's what we're saying here is that's okay.

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Could you set the intention to get clarity?

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And now that you share that story,

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I actually remember you and I were at a high-level mastermind

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retreat a couple of years ago where we were asked to

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set an intention for the next two days.

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And my intention was to gain clarity.

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I remember writing this down.

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I wrote,

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I would like to gain,

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or I know no lies.

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This is what I said,

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because I wrote it in the present tense.

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I will have clarity on my business model by Wednesday,

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whatever the date was at 5:00 PM.

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And yeah,

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no, I think we even write it as it is now

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Thursday, 5:00 PM,

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month, day,

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whatever. And I have complete clarity on XYZ.

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Yes, yes,

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yes. I think that's a really good practice.

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And I,

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I had,

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I had faith like you that I would get what I

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needed, but I wouldn't be lying if I didn't say there

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was a little bit of doubt.

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I thought,

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how am I going to get,

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I have been literally trying for two years to get clarity

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on my business model.

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How am I going to get it in the next two

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days? That just seems impossible to me.

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But I set that intention.

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I wrote it in the present tense and I,

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I couldn't even believe,

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but sure enough,

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by the end of that retreat,

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I had perfect clarity on my business model and where I

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was taking my business and I was excited to get home

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to execute because it was all,

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it was just so clear to me.

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And it makes me laugh to look back at that because

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you almost can't,

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you can't systematize that you can't plan that you just have

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to set the intention,

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the aim,

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and then be open.

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Right? Yeah.

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And how did that,

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how did that intention or that clarity come to you?

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Was that when you just had a conversation like,

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and it wasn't a planned conversation,

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it was just,

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you were talking to one of our coaches,

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correct. It was not a planned conversation.

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And it was much like what you said.

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It was one conversation led to a small idea that led

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to another conversation that led to listening to something differently that

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led to hearing something for the first time that actually had

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been said before,

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but I heard it for the first time.

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I had no intention going into that of forming a membership

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model for my business.

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And I left with complete clarity.

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That that's exactly what I needed to do.

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I think for,

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for the first time for me,

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I w maybe it was born out of frustration.

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Maybe I was just frustrated that I couldn't find the clarity.

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So I was like,

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no, I'm going to get the clarity.

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And I'm going to remain open to whatever that looks like,

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and I'm not going to shut down any idea.

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And so I joined a coach in one of these like

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breakout sessions we had,

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and she was talking about memberships and I was still like,

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nah, I don't,

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I don't know.

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I don't know.

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But then she said something and I thought,

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wait a minute.

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That just shifted a thought for me,

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which led to the idea of possibly,

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maybe. And that was early on the first day again,

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that was a two day retreat.

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And by the end of the second day I was,

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I was moving on.

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It was happening and it was amazing.

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And so I thought,

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wow, if that could happen for me.

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Cause again,

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I was a little,

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I won't lie to you because I had been trying for

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so long.

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I used to be,

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I used to be really skeptical about it too.

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I think I've been playing this intention setting game so many

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years now that now I am more confident that when I

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set that intention,

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it's like,

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oh yeah,

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no, it'll happen.

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Right. It will happen.

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And you start to gain some evidence to the fact that

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it will happen.

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So you start to trust that you have a little more

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faith and then you can start to do it more.

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Okay. This actually,

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I'd like to make an important distinction here.

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There's a difference between a very deliberate focused aim or intention,

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which is what we've been talking about.

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And then taking this concept into your life in a more

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spontaneous, organic manner.

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And I think that I can explain this best through a

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story. My may I share it with you?

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Of course.

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So recently.

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And actually,

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if you listen to the flourish academy,

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there's an episode one 22,

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where I'm talking about a recent meltdown that I had and

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the meltdown was around my 18 year old daughter's mouth.

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So if you have a teenager,

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I'm sure you can relate to this.

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Well, she triggers me of course,

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and I get upset and emotional,

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but I recognize that I'm giving my power away to her.

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And I just was really struggling with this.

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And I didn't want to be at the mercy of her

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mood. Okay.

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Who wants to live their life based on their teenager's attitudes,

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raise your hand.

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Just sounds like a recipe for all sorts of a springboard

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slot, like a tornado.

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You know,

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if she's had a bad day at work and just everyone

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is going to suffer and I was allowing it to impact

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me well,

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on this one particular day,

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it impacted me like it went too far.

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So I thought to myself,

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how can I manage not her because she's 18,

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I've done my job.

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How can I manage myself?

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So I put a post-it note on my bathroom mirror that

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says, how do I want to feel today?

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And then below it,

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I wrote,

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I have a choice.

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So what I am doing with this Nicole every single morning.

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So this has been a week or two.

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I see that post-it note.

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And I'm literally setting an intention every single day for the

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emotion that I want to feel is that I want to

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feel excited,

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joy, peace.

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Obviously I would select a positive emotion here.

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Nobody wants to feel like crap,

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right? So,

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but you have a choice.

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I was choosing to let her get to me.

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And then not what that is.

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We've talked about this that is working from the outside and

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that is absolutely being reactive to someone or something else.

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And I wanted to be proactive.

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I would say this intention setting is about being proactive with

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your life.

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Wouldn't you agree?

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Yes. 100%.

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And it's not something it's something that we need to set

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the intention to do the intention,

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to set the intention.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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That's for real,

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because otherwise you're just going to be at the mercy.

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You're going to be like a tree blowing in the wind.

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You're just at the mercy of the wind,

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the weather,

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the rain.

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And I just can't live my life that way.

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Now don't think that we're ever going to achieve perfection with

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this. This is just about making small,

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incremental improvements.

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I learned about intention setting first in my business.

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I applied it.

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I feel like it's going really well.

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I've learned a lot.

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I've accomplished a ton as I know you have as well.

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And now I have just sort of extended that to my

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personal life in a much,

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again, I believe this will be a more spontaneous,

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organic, like daily activity for me.

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How do you want to feel today?

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And if you say,

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well, I just want to feel whatever anybody else is feeling.

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I just want to absorb nobody else has energy,

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but that's actually,

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you're doing that by default,

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by not setting your intention.

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And that's what I was doing.

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I was absorbing her energy.

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So I'm not saying she doesn't still get to me because

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I'm human.

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But what I am saying is I now recognize I can

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set the intention for my emotions,

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my mood,

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because I have a choice.

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I love that.

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I also love that.

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You know,

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we can look at this intention.

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A lot of people think,

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for instance,

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like goals and attention.

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And it's just about this business goal.

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It's just about this big life.

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I'm going to retire at 50.

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I'm going to spend a month and a half traveling the

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world. I'm going to do X,

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Y, Z.

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But yeah,

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it can be those big goals and those big blocks,

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but it is also so important to be these little tiny

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things. Like,

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what am I going to get done today?

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How am I going to feel about what I get done

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today? You know,

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how, what do I want my intention is for this inquiry

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when I'm responding to my,

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to the inquiry.

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Here's one for you guys.

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When you get an inquiry in,

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what is your intention?

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When you are sending that back,

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when you're sending that reply,

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is it the kind of the unintended intention?

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The one that's kind of blowing in the wind where you're

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reapplying and you're like,

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oh, I really want them to book.

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They're going to ghost me.

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Like the last client did the intention,

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right? That's right.

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You know,

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by, by not having that intention,

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you have set that intention,

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that, that one that you don't want the outcome with.

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So then what happens?

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They ghost you.

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How about instead before this is your,

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this is your homework guys before your next inquiry response set

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a different intention.

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Get in that different head space,

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set that different intention,

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say it out loud and respond back.

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And you're like,

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Nicole talking out loud,

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like my dog already thinks I'm crazy.

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Like what it matters.

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It does matter.

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I know it sounds like a little bit.

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Woo. But what does it hurt to try?

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I always say that it doesn't hurt to try it.

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If you do not set an intention,

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not only are you being reactive,

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but I believe that the intention that you are setting without

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setting one,

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like you just said will actually almost always go to the

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negative. So it's not because it's our subconscious.

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Yeah. Right.

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So doing nothing is like setting a negative intention.

537
00:18:16,940 --> 00:18:17,870
Yeah. Right.

538
00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:18,590
Because yeah.

539
00:18:18,620 --> 00:18:20,780
Any time there's this vacuum,

540
00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:24,890
our subconscious or conscious brain conscious brain wants to like monkey

541
00:18:24,890 --> 00:18:26,300
brain wants to make sure we don't get eaten by a

542
00:18:26,300 --> 00:18:26,840
bear. Right.

543
00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:27,890
So wants to keep us safe.

544
00:18:28,190 --> 00:18:31,610
So it is going to default to not doing anything out

545
00:18:31,610 --> 00:18:32,510
of where we've been.

546
00:18:32,510 --> 00:18:34,400
So nothing is going to change.

547
00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:38,510
If you let that brain run the ship where if you

548
00:18:39,080 --> 00:18:39,970
say, whoa,

549
00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:40,820
what, what,

550
00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:43,160
what is going through my head?

551
00:18:44,030 --> 00:18:45,860
What am I saying to myself right now?

552
00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:47,210
Let's flip that.

553
00:18:47,690 --> 00:18:50,150
Then you start to write this new story and different,

554
00:18:50,510 --> 00:18:51,860
different things come into your life.

555
00:18:52,170 --> 00:18:55,220
That's funny you say that because I just finished reading soundtracks

556
00:18:55,220 --> 00:18:56,300
by John ACOF,

557
00:18:56,300 --> 00:18:57,680
which I highly recommend.

558
00:18:57,860 --> 00:19:00,290
And that's exactly what he says in that book is that

559
00:19:00,290 --> 00:19:02,960
you have to recognize the story you're telling yourself,

560
00:19:03,020 --> 00:19:05,840
and you will see that it is almost always negative.

561
00:19:05,900 --> 00:19:06,230
And then,

562
00:19:06,230 --> 00:19:10,970
so how could you say something more encouraging and more positive?

563
00:19:10,970 --> 00:19:11,390
And you know,

564
00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:15,830
setting intentions daily could mean different things on different days.

565
00:19:15,860 --> 00:19:19,160
So it's not always about being high level awesome,

566
00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:22,940
productive. You could have an intention today to be productive and

567
00:19:22,940 --> 00:19:26,150
you could have an intention tomorrow for a peaceful,

568
00:19:26,150 --> 00:19:27,590
quiet restorative day,

569
00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:29,240
right? These in,

570
00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:30,140
they should be balanced.

571
00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:31,490
Yep. When,

572
00:19:31,490 --> 00:19:32,630
when my kids were little,

573
00:19:32,630 --> 00:19:34,010
my intention was to shower.

574
00:19:37,520 --> 00:19:43,070
Be told that still sometimes my attention so funny and so

575
00:19:43,070 --> 00:19:46,070
true. And you might be in a season of your life

576
00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:46,970
where, you know,

577
00:19:46,970 --> 00:19:47,540
we joke,

578
00:19:47,540 --> 00:19:49,370
but you could be in a season where you say my

579
00:19:49,370 --> 00:19:50,930
intention is to just get through the day.

580
00:19:51,170 --> 00:19:52,730
And I've had days like that,

581
00:19:52,730 --> 00:19:53,360
for sure,

582
00:19:53,690 --> 00:19:55,190
where a day is going to be challenging.

583
00:19:55,190 --> 00:19:56,030
And you're just,

584
00:19:56,030 --> 00:19:57,200
I want to get through this with,

585
00:19:57,290 --> 00:20:01,160
with as much grace as possible understanding it's not going to

586
00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:04,520
be the most exciting best day ever.

587
00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:06,620
It might not even be productive at all,

588
00:20:06,620 --> 00:20:09,170
but it's what I need to do as a human to

589
00:20:09,170 --> 00:20:11,810
exist. So I'm just going to get through it.

590
00:20:11,870 --> 00:20:14,360
And then tomorrow is a new day and the next day

591
00:20:14,360 --> 00:20:15,290
is another one.

592
00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:17,870
And I can set different intentions for different days.

593
00:20:17,930 --> 00:20:21,140
So if you're a high performer or a high achiever type,

594
00:20:21,170 --> 00:20:22,010
a like me,

595
00:20:22,790 --> 00:20:25,070
your tendency might be to say,

596
00:20:25,310 --> 00:20:26,840
I'm going to be awesome and productive,

597
00:20:26,900 --> 00:20:27,140
you know,

598
00:20:27,150 --> 00:20:28,350
24 seven every,

599
00:20:28,520 --> 00:20:29,600
every day of the week,

600
00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:30,410
seven days a week.

601
00:20:30,500 --> 00:20:32,480
And you just can't sustain that.

602
00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:35,330
So you have to have some Abin and flow to these

603
00:20:35,330 --> 00:20:38,870
intentions. And it's also true in seasons of life.

604
00:20:38,900 --> 00:20:41,510
There might be seasons where you're growing or forming your business.

605
00:20:41,780 --> 00:20:43,730
And there might be seasons where you're maintaining it.

606
00:20:43,880 --> 00:20:44,450
I love that.

607
00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:49,510
And I am going to use this conversation as a springboard.

608
00:20:49,510 --> 00:20:51,460
I'm going on vacation tomorrow.

609
00:20:51,910 --> 00:20:54,790
And I'm going to set the intention because like I just

610
00:20:54,790 --> 00:20:55,720
said, my,

611
00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:56,650
my intention,

612
00:20:56,650 --> 00:20:57,730
usually I wake up in the morning.

613
00:20:57,760 --> 00:20:58,090
It's like,

614
00:21:01,330 --> 00:21:04,450
I'm basically at that level until I go to bed all

615
00:21:04,450 --> 00:21:04,990
the time.

616
00:21:04,990 --> 00:21:06,940
And even when I go on vacation,

617
00:21:06,940 --> 00:21:07,300
I'm like,

618
00:21:07,780 --> 00:21:10,300
yes, I'm going to vacation so I can work on different

619
00:21:10,300 --> 00:21:11,110
work projects,

620
00:21:11,110 --> 00:21:12,550
not my day to day.

621
00:21:12,820 --> 00:21:14,020
So I can like start to think.

622
00:21:14,290 --> 00:21:16,600
So my intention for this vacation,

623
00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:20,950
we're going to Yellowstone for like nine nights is to actually

624
00:21:21,190 --> 00:21:21,760
slow down,

625
00:21:22,570 --> 00:21:29,170
restore, take a break and allow whatever amazing business ideas that

626
00:21:29,170 --> 00:21:30,580
are going to come in to come in.

627
00:21:31,120 --> 00:21:34,450
But it's going to be from a place of relaxation.

628
00:21:35,130 --> 00:21:38,040
Wow. I can't wait to hear how you do with this

629
00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,290
because that's not easy for someone like you.

630
00:21:40,810 --> 00:21:42,150
No, that was really not.

631
00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:43,320
It was actually quite good.

632
00:21:44,010 --> 00:21:45,390
Sometimes I'll set an intention.

633
00:21:45,390 --> 00:21:45,990
If we're go.

634
00:21:46,020 --> 00:21:47,190
If we're spending the day as a family,

635
00:21:47,190 --> 00:21:47,850
doing something,

636
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:49,650
I'll try to take a deep breath and set the intention

637
00:21:49,650 --> 00:21:53,070
and literally just be present because my mind is making the

638
00:21:53,070 --> 00:21:54,240
lists. I'm like,

639
00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:55,920
when I get back to my desk,

640
00:21:56,130 --> 00:21:57,240
this is what's going to happen.

641
00:21:57,450 --> 00:21:59,100
And I'm like categorized,

642
00:22:00,060 --> 00:22:00,810
email myself,

643
00:22:00,810 --> 00:22:02,100
something. I forget,

644
00:22:02,110 --> 00:22:02,640
I'll be right back.

645
00:22:03,050 --> 00:22:05,160
Right. I got to leave myself a voice message.

646
00:22:05,190 --> 00:22:05,730
So I,

647
00:22:06,270 --> 00:22:07,560
so I know what I need to do.

648
00:22:07,830 --> 00:22:09,240
And, you know,

649
00:22:09,270 --> 00:22:10,200
put your phone down,

650
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:11,010
take a deep breath,

651
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:12,270
present, just be present.

652
00:22:12,270 --> 00:22:16,620
I was actually talking with my therapist about this recently because

653
00:22:16,980 --> 00:22:20,910
we tend to distract ourselves because we cannot be present.

654
00:22:21,120 --> 00:22:22,260
And distraction could,

655
00:22:22,340 --> 00:22:25,230
it's strange because you and I want to be productive in

656
00:22:25,230 --> 00:22:27,000
work. But if we're with our families in the car,

657
00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:30,510
we might be scrolling Facebook or Instagram and that's not productive,

658
00:22:30,570 --> 00:22:33,330
but it's literally because we can't be present because we're not

659
00:22:33,330 --> 00:22:34,530
doing the thing that we want to do.

660
00:22:34,530 --> 00:22:37,470
So we distract ourselves with something else that's stupid.

661
00:22:37,710 --> 00:22:41,220
Right? It's this weird thing that goes on in our brains.

662
00:22:41,220 --> 00:22:42,570
I don't pretend to understand it.

663
00:22:42,570 --> 00:22:44,640
I just know that that's how I operate.

664
00:22:44,700 --> 00:22:45,540
So I will,

665
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:46,650
again, set the intention,

666
00:22:46,650 --> 00:22:47,320
put the phone down,

667
00:22:47,350 --> 00:22:49,920
take a deep breath and just be present until they started

668
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:50,640
getting on my nerves.

669
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:51,600
And then I'll do what I have to do.

670
00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:54,510
That's pretty funny.

671
00:22:54,690 --> 00:22:56,580
Yeah. You and I are having a conversation of,

672
00:22:57,300 --> 00:22:57,570
you know,

673
00:22:57,570 --> 00:22:59,670
I love road trips by myself where I can just like

674
00:22:59,670 --> 00:23:00,930
put on a podcast and like,

675
00:23:00,930 --> 00:23:03,180
yeah. So I'm going to catch up on some coaching calls

676
00:23:03,180 --> 00:23:03,690
I'm going to like,

677
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:05,970
but then if you're going on a road trip with your

678
00:23:05,970 --> 00:23:06,750
family, I'm like,

679
00:23:07,350 --> 00:23:08,190
I love you family,

680
00:23:08,190 --> 00:23:09,570
but I'm going to have to,

681
00:23:09,570 --> 00:23:11,370
like, I can't just put on a podcast or put on

682
00:23:11,370 --> 00:23:12,570
my earbuds and ignore you.

683
00:23:12,570 --> 00:23:15,150
Like, we're have to like talk and listen to music or

684
00:23:15,150 --> 00:23:16,920
something. I'll try that,

685
00:23:17,130 --> 00:23:18,420
Nicole. I will never give up.

686
00:23:18,450 --> 00:23:19,380
I will never give up hope.

687
00:23:19,410 --> 00:23:20,340
Every time we get in the car,

688
00:23:20,340 --> 00:23:21,180
I try and I say,

689
00:23:21,300 --> 00:23:23,700
Hey, who wants to listen to a productivity podcast?

690
00:23:23,790 --> 00:23:24,390
Who's with me.

691
00:23:24,750 --> 00:23:28,740
But so far my enthusiasm has not been contagious.

692
00:23:30,810 --> 00:23:32,190
We sound like monsters,

693
00:23:32,190 --> 00:23:32,700
by the way.

694
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:36,450
It's hilarious with all of this being.

695
00:23:36,450 --> 00:23:39,480
So do you have some steps to share?

696
00:23:40,740 --> 00:23:41,190
I do.

697
00:23:41,580 --> 00:23:43,560
I actually have three steps.

698
00:23:43,590 --> 00:23:44,340
Nice and easy.

699
00:23:44,340 --> 00:23:45,890
Three steps to you guys.

700
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:48,560
Start to set these intentions.

701
00:23:49,310 --> 00:23:52,340
Number one is we need to decide what we want.

702
00:23:52,700 --> 00:23:53,990
Right? Talked about that.

703
00:23:54,710 --> 00:23:55,550
Number two.

704
00:23:56,150 --> 00:23:56,740
Okay. Sorry.

705
00:23:57,070 --> 00:23:59,050
Sorry to interrupt.

706
00:23:59,050 --> 00:24:01,030
You only have three and we can't even get through one,

707
00:24:01,030 --> 00:24:04,690
but I actually found that that's really difficult for people.

708
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:07,600
Like what if they don't know what they do?

709
00:24:08,290 --> 00:24:08,980
Well, yeah,

710
00:24:09,010 --> 00:24:10,120
no, that's a really good question.

711
00:24:10,120 --> 00:24:11,020
And actually,

712
00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:13,930
so there's a saying contrast creates clarity.

713
00:24:13,930 --> 00:24:17,140
So if you're not sure what you want,

714
00:24:17,500 --> 00:24:20,800
one of the easiest ways is to start to ask yourself

715
00:24:20,830 --> 00:24:21,700
what we don't want.

716
00:24:21,730 --> 00:24:25,780
Right? Because our brain is wired to focus on that negative.

717
00:24:26,170 --> 00:24:28,600
So it's a lot easier for us to say,

718
00:24:29,050 --> 00:24:29,290
you know,

719
00:24:29,290 --> 00:24:29,890
instead of saying,

720
00:24:29,890 --> 00:24:32,320
okay, I want my business to look like XYZ.

721
00:24:32,350 --> 00:24:35,080
Instead, if we don't know what that looks like,

722
00:24:35,230 --> 00:24:36,430
let's at least start with,

723
00:24:36,580 --> 00:24:38,200
I don't want my business.

724
00:24:38,590 --> 00:24:39,100
Like, you know,

725
00:24:39,130 --> 00:24:40,480
I don't want to work Sundays.

726
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,010
I don't want to work evenings.

727
00:24:42,250 --> 00:24:44,080
I don't want to shoot in studio.

728
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:45,460
I don't want to shoot on location.

729
00:24:45,490 --> 00:24:46,930
I don't want to sell just digital.

730
00:24:46,930 --> 00:24:49,120
It's like the don't list is a lot easier to come

731
00:24:49,120 --> 00:24:49,570
up with.

732
00:24:50,020 --> 00:24:51,880
And then it becomes a little bit easier to be like,

733
00:24:51,910 --> 00:24:52,090
all right.

734
00:24:52,090 --> 00:24:52,780
If I don't want this,

735
00:24:52,780 --> 00:24:53,350
what do I want?

736
00:24:53,650 --> 00:24:56,380
I think that's a great way to look at it because

737
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,090
a lot of people might struggle with what it is.

738
00:24:58,110 --> 00:24:58,600
In fact,

739
00:24:58,600 --> 00:24:59,590
I know that they struggle.

740
00:24:59,620 --> 00:25:01,330
The reason I know this is several years ago,

741
00:25:01,330 --> 00:25:03,910
I did these in-person business boot camps.

742
00:25:03,940 --> 00:25:06,820
And one of the first questions I asked people,

743
00:25:06,820 --> 00:25:07,750
actually, two questions.

744
00:25:07,750 --> 00:25:08,110
I said,

745
00:25:08,110 --> 00:25:08,920
who are you?

746
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:09,910
And what do you want?

747
00:25:10,090 --> 00:25:11,320
And we would talk about core values,

748
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:11,800
et cetera.

749
00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:12,940
But when we got to the,

750
00:25:12,940 --> 00:25:13,960
what do you want?

751
00:25:14,050 --> 00:25:17,320
I quickly realized that I had better keep a box of

752
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:22,450
Kleenex on my desk because so many people I worked with

753
00:25:22,660 --> 00:25:24,340
actually started to tear up.

754
00:25:24,610 --> 00:25:26,860
And, and one in particular sticking out of my mind,

755
00:25:26,860 --> 00:25:28,360
she looked at me and she said,

756
00:25:28,360 --> 00:25:29,950
Heather, I have no clue what I want.

757
00:25:30,070 --> 00:25:30,460
And I said,

758
00:25:30,460 --> 00:25:32,800
well, that's where we're going to have to begin because I

759
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:33,550
can't help you.

760
00:25:33,550 --> 00:25:34,510
You can't help yourself.

761
00:25:34,540 --> 00:25:36,370
How do we even know what we need to explore?

762
00:25:36,550 --> 00:25:38,440
If you don't know what it is that you want.

763
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:42,490
She had just spent so many years in motherhood that she

764
00:25:42,490 --> 00:25:47,740
had lost a connection with her own vision and purpose for

765
00:25:47,740 --> 00:25:50,770
herself. And she's a photographer in her business.

766
00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:54,010
So we spent quite a bit of time mapping out.

767
00:25:54,010 --> 00:25:54,670
Well. Okay.

768
00:25:54,670 --> 00:25:56,620
What would you like your business to look like?

769
00:25:56,740 --> 00:25:59,230
But now that I know about this contrast clarity thing,

770
00:25:59,260 --> 00:26:03,040
I think that's a good secondary question to ask if someone's

771
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:04,210
struggling, which is okay,

772
00:26:04,450 --> 00:26:05,620
that's totally fair.

773
00:26:05,710 --> 00:26:06,700
If you don't know what you want,

774
00:26:06,730 --> 00:26:07,570
what don't you want?

775
00:26:07,930 --> 00:26:09,670
And then hopefully we can work through that.

776
00:26:09,940 --> 00:26:11,140
Yeah, absolutely.

777
00:26:11,140 --> 00:26:14,170
And I think when people don't know what they want,

778
00:26:14,230 --> 00:26:15,220
there's two,

779
00:26:15,430 --> 00:26:16,990
there's two main drivers.

780
00:26:17,140 --> 00:26:18,910
This is not proven.

781
00:26:18,910 --> 00:26:20,110
This is just my thoughts.

782
00:26:20,230 --> 00:26:20,920
Number one,

783
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:22,870
I think is where they've kind of lost touch with who

784
00:26:22,870 --> 00:26:25,840
they are through focus on other things.

785
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:26,320
If they've,

786
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:26,650
you know,

787
00:26:26,650 --> 00:26:27,940
different phases of their life,

788
00:26:27,970 --> 00:26:30,820
or maybe they've been caring for an elderly parent or,

789
00:26:30,820 --> 00:26:31,060
you know,

790
00:26:31,060 --> 00:26:35,770
something where their focus has been totally consumed by something outside

791
00:26:35,770 --> 00:26:36,220
of themselves.

792
00:26:36,220 --> 00:26:36,610
And they're like,

793
00:26:36,670 --> 00:26:38,560
I honestly don't remember who I am.

794
00:26:38,950 --> 00:26:41,140
Right. And then the other side of that,

795
00:26:41,350 --> 00:26:44,640
where I think people start to kind of lie to themselves

796
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:47,070
about not knowing what they want is they know exactly what

797
00:26:47,070 --> 00:26:47,550
they want,

798
00:26:47,730 --> 00:26:49,080
but it scares the hell out of them.

799
00:26:49,610 --> 00:26:50,810
Oh, okay.

800
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:52,130
Hold on a second.

801
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:54,590
This is a really important point.

802
00:26:54,770 --> 00:26:55,820
So as coaches,

803
00:26:55,820 --> 00:26:58,280
you and I have to discern when we're working with someone,

804
00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:03,590
are they saying they don't know as an excuse to avoid

805
00:27:03,590 --> 00:27:05,150
exploring what they really want,

806
00:27:05,150 --> 00:27:06,590
but don't think they can get,

807
00:27:08,420 --> 00:27:09,560
or do they really need,

808
00:27:09,590 --> 00:27:10,580
do they really not know?

809
00:27:10,580 --> 00:27:12,320
And we need to like go down this path of,

810
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:13,370
okay, what you don't want.

811
00:27:13,370 --> 00:27:14,450
If I get that feeling,

812
00:27:14,450 --> 00:27:15,350
I have been known,

813
00:27:15,350 --> 00:27:15,620
you know,

814
00:27:15,620 --> 00:27:16,340
tough love.

815
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:17,570
Heather comes out.

816
00:27:17,630 --> 00:27:19,220
I said the other day on one of our calls,

817
00:27:19,220 --> 00:27:19,760
I was like,

818
00:27:20,120 --> 00:27:21,920
imagine he's like a Navy seal on a dress.

819
00:27:21,980 --> 00:27:23,840
And I said,

820
00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:26,540
I don't want any of you to use the phrase.

821
00:27:26,540 --> 00:27:27,110
I don't know,

822
00:27:27,110 --> 00:27:28,910
because that's just not true.

823
00:27:29,420 --> 00:27:30,680
You do know,

824
00:27:30,740 --> 00:27:33,320
you might just not recognize it yet.

825
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:34,550
You haven't explored it yet.

826
00:27:34,730 --> 00:27:37,130
You either think it's not possible for you.

827
00:27:37,130 --> 00:27:38,210
You can't do it,

828
00:27:38,210 --> 00:27:40,400
or there's a million other reasons.

829
00:27:40,430 --> 00:27:41,090
But just,

830
00:27:41,120 --> 00:27:44,270
could you drop that for a second and tell me,

831
00:27:44,270 --> 00:27:46,070
and I've also used this technique where I've said,

832
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:49,040
imagine that I like wave a magic wand or I'm a

833
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:50,150
genie. And I say,

834
00:27:50,150 --> 00:27:51,380
there are no limitations.

835
00:27:51,380 --> 00:27:52,040
What would you do?

836
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:53,480
What would your business look like?

837
00:27:53,540 --> 00:27:54,680
And people will still say,

838
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:56,240
well, if no,

839
00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:56,470
no, no,

840
00:27:56,470 --> 00:27:56,810
no, no,

841
00:27:57,020 --> 00:28:00,800
no. Could you just dream for a second and talk about

842
00:28:01,130 --> 00:28:04,280
like, ideally what your life and your business would look like

843
00:28:04,310 --> 00:28:07,670
and let go of the garbage or the beliefs that are

844
00:28:07,670 --> 00:28:11,090
holding you back and just be willing to speak it out

845
00:28:11,090 --> 00:28:15,020
loud. And then of course we can visit these issues and

846
00:28:15,020 --> 00:28:15,680
deal with them,

847
00:28:15,710 --> 00:28:18,920
but you have to get clear on what it is you

848
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:22,610
want. And I am tempted more often than not than to

849
00:28:22,610 --> 00:28:23,240
like say,

850
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:23,750
okay, listen,

851
00:28:23,750 --> 00:28:24,260
don't tell me,

852
00:28:24,260 --> 00:28:24,710
you don't know.

853
00:28:24,710 --> 00:28:25,430
That's not true.

854
00:28:26,360 --> 00:28:28,100
Like go deeper than that.

855
00:28:28,100 --> 00:28:29,750
Right. Yeah.

856
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:30,080
All right.

857
00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:30,890
So that's number one.

858
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:31,760
Decide what you want.

859
00:28:32,540 --> 00:28:33,350
That's number two,

860
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:35,090
speaking of going deeper though,

861
00:28:35,090 --> 00:28:36,230
this works is,

862
00:28:36,290 --> 00:28:37,400
get clear on your why,

863
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:39,800
because you know,

864
00:28:39,830 --> 00:28:41,390
there's all this self,

865
00:28:41,580 --> 00:28:42,800
self determination,

866
00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:44,090
self restraint,

867
00:28:44,420 --> 00:28:45,800
limiting. Yeah.

868
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:47,330
It only goes so far,

869
00:28:47,340 --> 00:28:49,010
right? Like the,

870
00:28:49,370 --> 00:28:49,610
you know,

871
00:28:49,610 --> 00:28:52,550
saying I'm not going to eat that cookie only goes so

872
00:28:52,550 --> 00:28:54,410
far until the cookies warm out of the oven.

873
00:28:54,500 --> 00:28:55,010
At least for me,

874
00:28:55,370 --> 00:28:56,370
stop it.

875
00:28:59,690 --> 00:29:00,500
Give me the cookie.

876
00:29:01,670 --> 00:29:02,570
Get clear on your why.

877
00:29:03,260 --> 00:29:04,100
So for instance,

878
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:05,990
you might believe that,

879
00:29:06,170 --> 00:29:06,620
you know,

880
00:29:07,070 --> 00:29:11,060
you want to have success in your business so that you

881
00:29:11,060 --> 00:29:11,960
can travel the world.

882
00:29:12,170 --> 00:29:12,470
I don't know.

883
00:29:12,470 --> 00:29:13,670
That seems pretty similar to mine,

884
00:29:14,030 --> 00:29:15,350
but you know,

885
00:29:15,470 --> 00:29:17,720
the question is it's not just traveling the world.

886
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:17,960
It's like,

887
00:29:17,990 --> 00:29:19,850
what would that give you?

888
00:29:20,270 --> 00:29:23,330
So what is traveling or what does that actually mean?

889
00:29:23,330 --> 00:29:23,780
Well, for me,

890
00:29:23,780 --> 00:29:24,740
that means freedom,

891
00:29:25,730 --> 00:29:28,400
but then even going deeper than that,

892
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:29,810
how does that make you feel?

893
00:29:29,990 --> 00:29:30,920
Right. You know,

894
00:29:31,310 --> 00:29:33,230
again, for me looking at that,

895
00:29:33,230 --> 00:29:33,560
it's like,

896
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:33,950
you know,

897
00:29:33,980 --> 00:29:36,620
traveling is definitely one of my things that I love to

898
00:29:36,620 --> 00:29:39,410
do. And it is a huge Y and it is a

899
00:29:39,410 --> 00:29:43,300
feeling of freedom it a day to day.

900
00:29:43,300 --> 00:29:47,080
That's the same is like my worst nightmare.

901
00:29:47,350 --> 00:29:47,890
Like I just,

902
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:49,090
I just can't.

903
00:29:49,420 --> 00:29:50,110
I look at,

904
00:29:50,110 --> 00:29:50,440
you know,

905
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:52,630
people, even if I go to the dentist or the doctor,

906
00:29:52,630 --> 00:29:53,020
I'm like,

907
00:29:53,140 --> 00:29:54,610
you do this every day,

908
00:29:55,870 --> 00:29:58,930
but oh my God.

909
00:29:58,990 --> 00:30:02,050
As evidenced by my overwhelmed podcast last week where I was

910
00:30:02,110 --> 00:30:02,830
getting overwhelmed,

911
00:30:02,830 --> 00:30:05,280
looking at my 16 big projects that I'm like having in

912
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:05,980
front of me right now,

913
00:30:05,980 --> 00:30:06,280
I'm like,

914
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:07,210
oh, I just,

915
00:30:07,390 --> 00:30:08,410
I can't do repetitive.

916
00:30:08,410 --> 00:30:10,720
So that travel,

917
00:30:11,170 --> 00:30:13,180
it gets me out of that repetitive.

918
00:30:13,210 --> 00:30:15,190
It also forces me.

919
00:30:15,190 --> 00:30:15,670
I realized,

920
00:30:15,670 --> 00:30:16,720
this is what I love about it.

921
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,900
It forces me to be present because if you're filling up

922
00:30:19,900 --> 00:30:21,280
a car in France and you're like,

923
00:30:21,790 --> 00:30:22,090
oh shit,

924
00:30:22,090 --> 00:30:23,410
what do they call diesel here?

925
00:30:23,530 --> 00:30:24,970
Is that diesel Petro,

926
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,840
right? Or like one time in Croatia,

927
00:30:28,990 --> 00:30:29,710
we spent,

928
00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:33,670
we spent like 10 minutes trying to figure out how to

929
00:30:33,670 --> 00:30:36,040
open the stinking little gas thing on the side of the

930
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:38,890
car, looking for a button or pressing it.

931
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:42,010
We're trying to get the manual out and like Croatian,

932
00:30:43,990 --> 00:30:45,070
how the heck did we do this?

933
00:30:45,250 --> 00:30:46,690
The car had to be on like,

934
00:30:46,690 --> 00:30:48,670
the key had to be in the ignition to open up

935
00:30:48,700 --> 00:30:50,140
the, the little gas thing.

936
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:50,950
But anyway,

937
00:30:51,130 --> 00:30:54,010
it's just like these little challenges that force you to be

938
00:30:54,010 --> 00:30:59,500
present. And so here's another little interesting piece we got clear

939
00:30:59,500 --> 00:31:00,400
on these whys.

940
00:31:00,850 --> 00:31:01,660
Number one,

941
00:31:01,690 --> 00:31:05,020
it dements your commitment to that attention more,

942
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:09,160
but it also helps you realize little things like,

943
00:31:09,220 --> 00:31:11,980
oh, how can I bring these little things into my life

944
00:31:12,010 --> 00:31:13,300
now? All right.

945
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:15,550
Been COVID for a year and a half.

946
00:31:15,580 --> 00:31:18,310
Maybe I push that trip to Scotland,

947
00:31:18,310 --> 00:31:19,150
like 7,000

948
00:31:19,150 --> 00:31:23,200
times, but how can I still get a new experience here?

949
00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:25,060
How can I do something that pushes me out of my

950
00:31:25,060 --> 00:31:27,190
comfort zone that makes me be present.

951
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:29,680
So then you can start to pull some of those whys

952
00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:31,900
into your more every day and use those for your intentions.

953
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:33,720
I think that's a great story.

954
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:35,610
The way that you connected all of that,

955
00:31:35,610 --> 00:31:37,230
because some people will say,

956
00:31:37,230 --> 00:31:38,340
I want to grow my business.

957
00:31:38,340 --> 00:31:39,000
Okay. Why?

958
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:40,380
Because I want to get more clients.

959
00:31:40,410 --> 00:31:42,000
Why? Because I want to make more money.

960
00:31:42,210 --> 00:31:44,130
Why? Because I wanted to pay off my house.

961
00:31:44,130 --> 00:31:45,480
Why? Because I want to travel.

962
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:46,740
Why? Because I want freedom.

963
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:49,170
And when you finally go,

964
00:31:49,290 --> 00:31:53,070
I think I read somewhere or once it's like 10 levels

965
00:31:53,070 --> 00:31:53,850
deep sometimes.

966
00:31:53,910 --> 00:31:55,050
Yeah. I've heard at least seven,

967
00:31:55,350 --> 00:31:59,370
which three are pretty easy to get really hard by the

968
00:31:59,370 --> 00:32:00,750
time you get to six or seven,

969
00:32:01,050 --> 00:32:01,710
that is hard.

970
00:32:02,100 --> 00:32:02,970
You're going to struggle.

971
00:32:03,630 --> 00:32:06,660
Ultimately what you're trying to get to is the core value.

972
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:09,570
So I did this exercise a while ago with one of

973
00:32:09,570 --> 00:32:13,260
our clients and we'd we determined it was freedom for her.

974
00:32:13,530 --> 00:32:15,600
And I asked her to give me examples of how she

975
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:17,400
was currently experiencing freedom in her life.

976
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:18,510
And she listed all these ways.

977
00:32:18,510 --> 00:32:18,840
And I said,

978
00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:20,790
okay, so the thing you're searching for you actually.

979
00:32:20,790 --> 00:32:23,310
Yeah. And her face was like,

980
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:24,450
we were on a zoom.

981
00:32:24,450 --> 00:32:24,930
She was like,

982
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:25,620
oh yeah,

983
00:32:25,620 --> 00:32:26,250
I guess so.

984
00:32:26,310 --> 00:32:28,320
I didn't even recognize it.

985
00:32:29,130 --> 00:32:30,960
I love the way Michael Hyatt approaches this.

986
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:31,650
He says,

987
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:33,630
you lose your way when you,

988
00:32:33,630 --> 00:32:35,010
you lose your why.

989
00:32:35,700 --> 00:32:39,740
And also that you can withstand almost any how,

990
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:43,130
when you were really connected with your why Simon Sinek has

991
00:32:43,130 --> 00:32:45,950
a really good Ted talk and a book on this called

992
00:32:45,950 --> 00:32:46,940
start with why,

993
00:32:47,150 --> 00:32:48,830
if you're not familiar with this concept,

994
00:32:48,830 --> 00:32:50,540
I definitely recommend checking it out.

995
00:32:51,380 --> 00:32:52,280
Yep. I love it.

996
00:32:52,340 --> 00:32:52,760
All right.

997
00:32:52,940 --> 00:32:53,360
So that's number,

998
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:54,370
number one,

999
00:32:54,370 --> 00:32:55,330
decide what you want.

1000
00:32:55,330 --> 00:32:55,780
Number two,

1001
00:32:55,780 --> 00:32:59,020
get clear on your number three is to visualize.

1002
00:32:59,350 --> 00:32:59,810
Okay. Okay.

1003
00:32:59,920 --> 00:33:03,370
So I don't,

1004
00:33:03,460 --> 00:33:06,370
I, I have read this in these books.

1005
00:33:06,460 --> 00:33:08,140
It's so important to visualize your,

1006
00:33:08,170 --> 00:33:08,950
could you,

1007
00:33:11,050 --> 00:33:12,160
yeah. You know,

1008
00:33:12,250 --> 00:33:13,060
and I don't think,

1009
00:33:13,060 --> 00:33:14,920
I think some people hear this and they think they need

1010
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:16,060
to go sit in a 20 minute,

1011
00:33:16,060 --> 00:33:19,180
like deep state meditation was like common drums in the background

1012
00:33:19,180 --> 00:33:19,720
or something,

1013
00:33:20,950 --> 00:33:21,460
but that's,

1014
00:33:21,610 --> 00:33:23,830
that's not even necessarily the case.

1015
00:33:23,830 --> 00:33:24,700
Like for instance,

1016
00:33:24,910 --> 00:33:25,570
right behind me,

1017
00:33:25,570 --> 00:33:26,200
if we were in video,

1018
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:26,620
you can see,

1019
00:33:26,620 --> 00:33:28,360
I have my adventure awaits board,

1020
00:33:28,630 --> 00:33:29,860
which now,

1021
00:33:29,950 --> 00:33:30,670
now this is,

1022
00:33:30,730 --> 00:33:34,330
this is something I cut out pictures of my travel magazines,

1023
00:33:34,450 --> 00:33:35,020
future trips.

1024
00:33:35,020 --> 00:33:36,490
I want to take my trip to Italy.

1025
00:33:36,490 --> 00:33:40,690
That is going to happen next summer canceled twice.

1026
00:33:40,690 --> 00:33:42,070
But that hotel up there,

1027
00:33:42,550 --> 00:33:44,680
oh, that's the hotel I'm staying at.

1028
00:33:44,890 --> 00:33:46,990
And that was not on purpose.

1029
00:33:47,470 --> 00:33:49,750
Like I had stayed at that motor.

1030
00:33:49,750 --> 00:33:51,970
I booked that hotel and then I looked and I'm like,

1031
00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:52,870
oh, wait,

1032
00:33:53,770 --> 00:33:56,290
that's the same town in the same hotel.

1033
00:33:56,770 --> 00:33:58,000
This has happened twice to me.

1034
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,420
Yeah. I cut out a castle in Ireland when,

1035
00:34:01,420 --> 00:34:02,740
and I want then as like,

1036
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:04,510
oh wait,

1037
00:34:05,110 --> 00:34:06,670
this, this is that castle.

1038
00:34:06,730 --> 00:34:08,470
And I didn't look at my board and like,

1039
00:34:08,500 --> 00:34:09,400
I wanted to stay there.

1040
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:11,140
And it's just in my normal planning that was like,

1041
00:34:11,140 --> 00:34:13,680
this looks familiar and look back.

1042
00:34:13,720 --> 00:34:13,990
I'm like,

1043
00:34:14,410 --> 00:34:16,960
oh, and now looking at my board,

1044
00:34:17,290 --> 00:34:17,800
let's see,

1045
00:34:18,190 --> 00:34:19,270
I've got Italy,

1046
00:34:19,270 --> 00:34:20,440
which should have happened.

1047
00:34:21,060 --> 00:34:22,120
The Puglia region.

1048
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:22,960
I've got Yellowstone,

1049
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:24,370
which is happening tomorrow.

1050
00:34:25,300 --> 00:34:26,290
I've got the Galapagos,

1051
00:34:26,290 --> 00:34:27,730
which has happened in November.

1052
00:34:27,730 --> 00:34:29,050
Like I need to take my board off.

1053
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:31,000
Cause there's only I've got,

1054
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:31,780
this is a,

1055
00:34:31,780 --> 00:34:34,600
this is a random one Mongolia.

1056
00:34:34,930 --> 00:34:37,180
Cause I want to see the Eagle hunters and all like

1057
00:34:37,180 --> 00:34:40,660
the horse stuff out there to Mongolian beef.

1058
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:41,680
I do well.

1059
00:34:41,950 --> 00:34:42,640
That's true too.

1060
00:34:42,700 --> 00:34:44,680
I don't know if you actually get my complete beef and

1061
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:45,100
my yeah.

1062
00:34:48,340 --> 00:34:49,150
And yeah,

1063
00:34:49,150 --> 00:34:51,070
like the Spanish bull Erik islands.

1064
00:34:51,100 --> 00:34:52,510
Oh. And South Africa,

1065
00:34:52,510 --> 00:34:53,080
boulders speech.

1066
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:53,950
Give me some penguins.

1067
00:34:53,950 --> 00:34:54,460
But anyway,

1068
00:34:54,460 --> 00:34:55,360
I digress.

1069
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:58,870
So that's an easy way to visualize.

1070
00:34:58,870 --> 00:35:00,940
I think it's also,

1071
00:35:00,940 --> 00:35:02,800
even when you make that attention,

1072
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:05,020
like you look at your mirror in this morning and you

1073
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:08,410
say, I want to feel joy today.

1074
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:12,310
Like it's like saying pink elephant and not thinking about a

1075
00:35:12,310 --> 00:35:12,700
pink elephant,

1076
00:35:13,660 --> 00:35:16,120
putting that intention you are visualizing.

1077
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:18,550
And if you can extend that even by 30 seconds and

1078
00:35:18,550 --> 00:35:21,460
just sit in that feeling or sit in that feeling of

1079
00:35:21,460 --> 00:35:24,070
why and what that gives you and how you want to

1080
00:35:24,070 --> 00:35:25,720
feel after that attention.

1081
00:35:26,470 --> 00:35:29,650
Then I think that is really what that means.

1082
00:35:29,860 --> 00:35:33,820
Okay. You have just really encouraged me because I wonder if

1083
00:35:33,820 --> 00:35:35,290
I was over-complicating it.

1084
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:35,860
Then I was,

1085
00:35:35,950 --> 00:35:36,850
I was being kind of new.

1086
00:35:37,590 --> 00:35:39,870
I was thinking I needed to sit there and close my

1087
00:35:39,870 --> 00:35:42,840
eyes and like picture this beach or the beach house or

1088
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:44,820
whatever it is or I,

1089
00:35:44,820 --> 00:35:48,330
and maybe I just like setting the intention and then sort

1090
00:35:48,330 --> 00:35:49,350
of like imagining,

1091
00:35:49,380 --> 00:35:51,660
oh, I can hear the waves or I'm going to be

1092
00:35:51,660 --> 00:35:53,520
on the beach or this is what it's going to feel

1093
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:54,770
like. Like I,

1094
00:35:55,100 --> 00:35:56,040
I think,

1095
00:35:56,220 --> 00:35:57,540
I think I can do that.

1096
00:35:57,570 --> 00:35:58,350
I'm going to have,

1097
00:35:58,350 --> 00:35:59,970
I'm really gonna give it a try,

1098
00:35:59,970 --> 00:36:02,910
but right.

1099
00:36:03,030 --> 00:36:03,600
And I didn't,

1100
00:36:03,690 --> 00:36:05,400
I don't know that I made that connection.

1101
00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:05,940
So thank you.

1102
00:36:05,940 --> 00:36:06,960
That was super helpful.

1103
00:36:07,020 --> 00:36:09,240
And on my daily intentions as well.

1104
00:36:09,240 --> 00:36:11,130
So if I decide today,

1105
00:36:11,130 --> 00:36:14,190
I want to feel joy and peace and happiness.

1106
00:36:14,430 --> 00:36:16,920
Well, what does that look like for me?

1107
00:36:17,370 --> 00:36:17,760
You know,

1108
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:20,730
does that mean getting some work done?

1109
00:36:20,730 --> 00:36:26,220
Actually that does bring me tremendous joy getting work done or

1110
00:36:26,220 --> 00:36:29,940
does that mean spending time with my husband and going on

1111
00:36:29,940 --> 00:36:30,720
a lunch date?

1112
00:36:30,720 --> 00:36:31,200
You know what,

1113
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:32,550
yes. The answer to that is yes,

1114
00:36:32,670 --> 00:36:35,190
but just by naming it,

1115
00:36:35,370 --> 00:36:38,010
the pink elephant thing is a great example because you're going

1116
00:36:38,010 --> 00:36:38,760
to think about it.

1117
00:36:38,850 --> 00:36:40,530
And once you think about it,

1118
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:44,220
Tony Robbins says a much similar to what the Wayne Dyer

1119
00:36:44,220 --> 00:36:46,620
quote, which is energy flows,

1120
00:36:46,620 --> 00:36:48,570
where attention goes.

1121
00:36:48,570 --> 00:36:49,920
So if you set the intention,

1122
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:52,980
your energy will be focused on that and you will start

1123
00:36:52,980 --> 00:36:56,520
to get more of what you want out of life.

1124
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:58,170
You'll start to create your life by design.

1125
00:36:58,170 --> 00:36:58,920
And isn't,

1126
00:36:58,920 --> 00:36:59,700
isn't that the point,

1127
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:01,340
right? Exactly.

1128
00:37:01,430 --> 00:37:02,510
Yeah. Life by design,

1129
00:37:02,510 --> 00:37:02,990
our business,

1130
00:37:02,990 --> 00:37:04,970
bad design leads to our life by design,

1131
00:37:04,970 --> 00:37:05,330
like it's,

1132
00:37:05,390 --> 00:37:07,970
and it doesn't get where you want it to go without

1133
00:37:07,970 --> 00:37:08,720
that intention.

1134
00:37:09,110 --> 00:37:10,370
And without those three steps.

1135
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,440
So decide what you want to get clear on your why,

1136
00:37:12,470 --> 00:37:13,790
and then visualize.

1137
00:37:13,970 --> 00:37:14,540
And like we said,

1138
00:37:14,540 --> 00:37:17,660
it doesn't have to be 20 minutes of like own with

1139
00:37:17,660 --> 00:37:18,290
like, you know,

1140
00:37:18,740 --> 00:37:20,600
Tibetan bells in the background or something,

1141
00:37:22,250 --> 00:37:22,520
you know,

1142
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:25,220
and truly what the visualization to like,

1143
00:37:25,250 --> 00:37:26,210
I think it should be,

1144
00:37:26,210 --> 00:37:28,640
maybe we need to come up with a new Heather Nicole

1145
00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:29,330
word for it.

1146
00:37:29,690 --> 00:37:30,500
Maybe it has to be,

1147
00:37:30,500 --> 00:37:31,310
feel it like,

1148
00:37:31,310 --> 00:37:31,970
it just has to be,

1149
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:36,020
have to like step into that feeling of like,

1150
00:37:36,050 --> 00:37:36,260
all right,

1151
00:37:36,260 --> 00:37:37,160
I want to feel joy.

1152
00:37:37,220 --> 00:37:39,170
Where do I feel that joy in my body?

1153
00:37:39,170 --> 00:37:40,670
How does that manifest good?

1154
00:37:40,670 --> 00:37:41,180
Like, and just,

1155
00:37:41,370 --> 00:37:43,910
or even think about a time that you felt that joy

1156
00:37:44,300 --> 00:37:46,130
and, and then you're attracting,

1157
00:37:47,090 --> 00:37:48,410
I think that that's brilliant.

1158
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:50,870
And I think that everybody should start today by trying to

1159
00:37:50,870 --> 00:37:53,360
set an intention just for today,

1160
00:37:53,390 --> 00:37:54,710
the next few hours,

1161
00:37:54,710 --> 00:37:57,350
even. Cause if you feel like setting an intention for the

1162
00:37:57,350 --> 00:37:59,540
next six months is too big or too difficult.

1163
00:37:59,690 --> 00:38:00,140
That's okay.

1164
00:38:00,140 --> 00:38:01,160
I can understand that.

1165
00:38:01,310 --> 00:38:03,080
Could you start with something smaller?

1166
00:38:03,710 --> 00:38:06,020
And I think the answer to that is yes,

1167
00:38:06,050 --> 00:38:12,380
because you cannot hit a board with blinders on with up,

1168
00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:13,760
sorry, a mask on,

1169
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:14,480
in the dark.

1170
00:38:14,570 --> 00:38:15,320
You can't,

1171
00:38:15,770 --> 00:38:16,520
you have to,

1172
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:17,570
at the very least,

1173
00:38:18,380 --> 00:38:19,190
I was just going to say,

1174
00:38:19,190 --> 00:38:21,440
you could also set like a little random alarm that comes

1175
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:22,790
off on your phone periodically.

1176
00:38:22,790 --> 00:38:23,150
It's like,

1177
00:38:23,180 --> 00:38:23,480
it says,

1178
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:24,230
what's your intention.

1179
00:38:24,260 --> 00:38:26,720
So it just kind of remind you like having some sort

1180
00:38:26,720 --> 00:38:29,150
of thing that anchors you to ask you what your intention.

1181
00:38:29,150 --> 00:38:29,900
Then I thought I'm like,

1182
00:38:29,930 --> 00:38:30,350
oh man,

1183
00:38:30,350 --> 00:38:30,860
that will be fun.

1184
00:38:30,890 --> 00:38:33,500
Like that's why some people have crystals or things like that.

1185
00:38:33,500 --> 00:38:39,430
It's just a simple to anchor a question to cause you

1186
00:38:39,430 --> 00:38:43,180
to kind of get out of whatever circumstance you're in and

1187
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:45,340
kind of reset the path that you want to be on.

1188
00:38:45,430 --> 00:38:49,480
And then I thought we really should create Heather bobbleheads for

1189
00:38:49,480 --> 00:38:50,350
the hair of the dog community.

1190
00:38:50,740 --> 00:38:51,910
Oh, that's hilarious.

1191
00:38:51,910 --> 00:38:52,720
And I support it.

1192
00:38:53,230 --> 00:38:55,690
I think that would be the funniest thing in the world.

1193
00:38:55,690 --> 00:38:58,060
Like get a really funny photo of me,

1194
00:38:58,060 --> 00:38:59,020
put it on a bobblehead,

1195
00:38:59,020 --> 00:39:00,130
put me on your desk.

1196
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,290
And then when you start thinking crazy,

1197
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:04,540
you can just look at my head wobble in there.

1198
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:07,390
That is so funny.

1199
00:39:08,050 --> 00:39:10,930
End up Googling CRA custom bobble.

1200
00:39:13,090 --> 00:39:18,400
My intention today is to Google creating a custom bobble head

1201
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,600
that we should probably wrap up cause I have some work

1202
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:22,930
to do.

1203
00:39:22,930 --> 00:39:27,460
And some of course that is great.

1204
00:39:27,460 --> 00:39:28,900
Nicole, you just made my day.

1205
00:39:30,670 --> 00:39:31,060
I love it.

1206
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:35,500
I think I know what I'm getting Heather for Christmas anyway.

1207
00:39:35,650 --> 00:39:37,030
Anyway, I won't be able to wait that long.

1208
00:39:37,030 --> 00:39:38,020
I'm terrible at surprises.

1209
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:42,700
Thanks everybody again for sticking with us,

1210
00:39:42,730 --> 00:39:45,400
Heather, thank you again for being here with us again,

1211
00:39:45,590 --> 00:39:49,600
you guys can find Heather inside the academy and [email protected]

1212
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:52,360
where she has her flourish academy world as well.

1213
00:39:52,390 --> 00:39:54,220
But thanks again for being here with us.

1214
00:39:54,970 --> 00:39:56,230
Thank you so much for having me.

1215
00:39:56,860 --> 00:39:57,400
Of course,

1216
00:39:57,460 --> 00:39:57,970
of course.

1217
00:39:58,210 --> 00:39:58,390
All right,

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00:39:58,390 --> 00:39:59,830
everybody, we'll see you next week.

1219
00:40:00,610 --> 00:40:02,590
Thanks for listening to the hair of the dog podcast.

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00:40:02,590 --> 00:40:04,360
If you want to check out the show notes for access

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00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:06,490
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77. Once again,

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00:40:15,670 --> 00:40:19,060
that's www.hairofthedogacademy.com.

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The number seven,

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the number seven.

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